#MondayMotivation – Jeff Allen

#MondayMotivation – Jeff Allen

For your #MondayMotivation enjoy another video from Jeff Allen. Jeff is a fantastic comedian with a great outlook on life. Take a moment and enjoy this short video.

Just some thoughts,


#MondayMotivation – Actions Matter

#MondayMotivation – Actions Matter

I have watched this short movie on and off for a while now. I believe it is one of the best illustrations of actions one can find on YouTube. Enjoy and let it be an example.

Just some thoughts,


The “Christian” Dilemma — The Election

The “Christian” Dilemma — The Election

Last night, Senator Ted Cruz suspended his campaign after a second place finish in the Indiana Primary. As soon as the Senator suspended his campaign, social media was flooded with disgust over the elections, concern for our country and an unwavering pattern of whining about what to do next. Some say they will not vote, others will go to the polls and hold their nose as they pick the lesser of two evils and still others are joyous to pull the lever (or push the button) on election day.

May I remind you this election season has not turned out the way it has not because of the past year or even two years? It is due to a pattern of behavior which began years ago with the entitlements, a “that’s the way we have always done it”,  a troubling financial system and a pure lack of respect for mankind. If you do not believe me, I would challenge you to research it.*

The fate of our country is not in the hands of the politicians, but it begins at our kitchen tables. It begins in our homes, not in Washington D.C. Our homes are suffering due to a lack of parenting, a lack of relationships and a lack of respect. If you want to turn the culture of our nation back to its founding principles, then start at home.

Let your family know that you are committed to them and their future; along with the legacy that you are leaving to your family. Let them know what you will make mistakes, but it is time to rise above the status quo and begin living for a greater purpose.

Start by talking; not texting. Put away technology and begin a conversation with your family over their interests, their goals and even how their day went. It is time we build the family through our relationships and not through problems. Allow your children to speak and allow them to learn.

Continue by getting your hands dirty. This nation was not built on watching television, but it was built by the hands of those willing to get out and work to make things happen. With the summer approaching, I believe there is ample opportunity for you and your family to get outside, breathe a little and get a little dirty. Teach your children the benefits of growing your own food, digging in the dirt and living a fulfilled life.

Teach your children respect. Just because you disagree with someone does not mean you have to throw up your hands, degrade them, unfriend them and never speak to them again. It means you disagree. The current process of disagreements is filled with insults, hatred and anger; instead of a respectful discussion.

Teach your children that they can respect others, but not agree with them. Allow them the ability to have a discussion over a disagreement and not a blatant, cutthroat domination. This country needs to talk, not fight like cats and dogs over the smallest of matters.

Teach your children there are things worth fighting for in life. There are standards and morals that must be fought over, but fought the right way and with the right information.

Stop giving everyone a trophy. Not everyone wins in life and each person needs to understand that every day. Some people will lose; they will fail. Some of the greatest winners in life have had the greatest failures. Allow your children to fail. It is ok, they will survive. Teach them.

Teach your children the value of hard work. Notice I did not say, “teach them to work,” but instead “teach them the value of hard work.” The future generations will need to work harder than we do; even with the power of technology. Teach them to value hard work. The value of hard work is remembered best in the value of a day off. Many people see a day off as another day because they have not valued hard work during the week. Value hard work.

Read the Bible. It does not matter if you are religious or not, just read it. It is the best-selling book of all time and so many will never read it. Begin in Psalm 11.3 if you want, but read it. (read the verses that follow it too)

My friends, this world is not over because of one election, it is over when a people of standards, morals and power cower behind the excuses that are currently being made.

Step up. It is time.

Just my thoughts,




*I really dislike providing all the information to people, but instead letting them do some groundwork and find out for themselves. I believe it is better that way.



Social Media – “Losing friends and gaining sanity.”

Social Media – “Losing friends and gaining sanity.”

A few days ago, I decided I need to simplify some areas of Social Media. To be honest, I enjoy a variety of aspects of social media, but all the drama has really gotten in the way of the positive. Anything from the chaos of politics to the chaos of someone’s personal problems have filled by Facebook Newsfeed for weeks now. Friends told me to begin “hiding” various people who are constantly dramatizing even the smallest of things. I tried this for a while and thought it worked pretty well. The only issue I had with “hiding people”  was that they could still see my feed and comment.

Speaking of comments – just because you can comment, does not mean you should. All of us post things in a random way, but it is the comments that are crazy. People comment on anything and everything without reading and thinking about what they are going to say; especially anything on religion and politics. In fact, I have disabled comments on this blog because they were so absurd and disrespectful, they were not worth having around.

If you are going to comment, think first. If you still decide to comment, think about it again before you write it. When you do write it, reread it before you hit send.

On the other hand, there were some people who posted nothing but the negative that just had to go. I have friends to cuss, drink and do other things I disagree with, but rarely do I “hide them;” but the consistently negative and dramatic had to go.

In light of those things, I decided to make a change. So a few days ago,  I posted this:


In this process, I maybe be losing some “friends” but I am regaining my sanity. Honestly, I rarely peruse Facebook unless I am sitting on my couch in the evening. I have chosen this method to keep my sanity and keep the drama down.

To further simplify social media, I have deleted a few account on other platforms which never amounted to much. I deleted LinkedIn about a year ago after being stalked by people who had nothing better to do. (Yes, I said stalked. It is a long story, but it is amazing what people do.) There are certain areas of social media that people just have to have and I refuse to follow the status quo.

Now before you think I am against social media, I am not. I enjoy reconnecting with people I have not talked to in years and now using the opportunity to keep up with each other’s families. The ability to share information, articles, pictures and videos is a powerful tool to motivate and encourage people.

What changes have you made to social media?

Could you use a reduction in the drama of social media?

Just my thoughts,



“Before you can change the world…”

“Before you can change the world…”

“Before you can change the world, you must change yourself.”

I have heard the above quote many times and have no idea who said it first. After working in what some call the “personal development field” for several years no, I have found the quote to be absolutely true. An individual must begin to change personally before they change the world. A salesman would say, “You must believe in the product you are selling or no one will believe you.” The same is true with change; one must be the change they want to see in others.

When we change, the world sees a change in us and they should want to make the positive change too. Here are some words found in the back of No More Mondays by Dan Miller (page 241) attributed as found on a tomb dated A.D. 1100 of an Anglican Bishop at Westminster Abbey:

When I was young and free and my imagination had no limits,
I dreamed of changing the world.
As I grew older and wiser, I discovered the world would not change,
so I shortened my sights somewhat and
decided to change only my country.
But it, too, seemed immovable.

As I grew into my twilight years,
in one last desperate attempt,
I settled for changing only my family,
those closest to me, but alas,
they would have none of it.

And now as I lie on my deathbed, I suddenly realize:
If I had only changed myself first,
Then by example I would have changed my family.
From their inspiration and encouragement,
I would have been able to better my country and,
who knows, I may have changed the world.


Are you ready to change yourself?

Just some thoughts,


The Ride Home

The Ride Home

Personal Note: Before reading this post you might like to reread “The Text Message.” As a reminder, these articles are written from a sincere heart.  There is, and never will be, any disrespect intended. I ask that you read them with an open heart and an open mind. This is a short glimpse into my life as a minister that many have asked. These words are not requests for sympathy, but a short, brief glimpse into the life that many people never see of a minister.

Shortly after sending Carrie the text message I headed home.

With the windows rolled down, my 2012 Toyota Camry cruised down the interstate heading home. It was well into the evening and the cold December air flowed through the windows, but the crisp air felt good. There are times when driving at night with a cool breeze coming through the windows can soothe the soul. Between the crisp air and the radio playing in the background, I sat back and relaxed in the seat and wondered what awaited me at home.

Throughout the past years of ministry I did some crazy things at a moments notice. My wife was (and still is) used to the craziness that I call life. A year or two before I share with her a larger plan for a project I was working on and she was all for it. The one project would empty a savings account, but she never flinched. It truly takes a special woman to be a minister’s wife and an even more patient and special woman to be mind.

Over the past few weeks, Carrie and I had spent weeks planning the year ahead. It was typical for us to take a walk around the neighborhood and discuss a variety of matters pertaining to life, family, faith and whatever else was happening in the world. During the lunchtime walks surrounding the situation at the time, we discussed finances, goals, family situations, school functions, summer trips, changing work environments and more. Throughout each discussion, we both agreed that a change was necessary for the greater good. But never did I expect those plans would even change further; never did I think I would send her the text message I had sent.

For years before I even started in ministry, I desired to do something which would assist people in living better. Granted, I wish all of that was a spiritual success, but there were times where people needed physical help and I prayed that the light of Christ would shine. As Christians, we should not forget that Jesus fed 5,000 people because He had compassion on them (Matthew 14.14). His compassion for them was evident in the miracle he preformed. He watched the people and felt their pains and problems. This is further evident a few chapters over in Matthew 15. Jesus had compassion on the crowd because they continually followed Him. As a result, he once again preformed a miracle in feeding over 4,000 people with just a few loaves of bread and some small fish.

While the life of Jesus was destined to bring Him to the cross for our sins, it was His life to make people better through compassionate eyes. Let us never forget.

As I drove home that night, I questioned my own compassion. Had I been compassionate enough? Had I done enough in ministry to influence the people around me?

Honestly, I left feel dejected, hurt and angry.

It would be a long 25 minute ride home.

Throughout the next 25 minutes, my mind was spun like it was in the Daytona 500. I was relaxed, but yet questions ran rampant through my mind. I constantly looked out the driver’s side window toward the Ravenel bridge in the distance. It shimmering lights stood out in the darkness of night. Each moment a different thought came through my head and a new “if” occurred. Phrases filled my head like,

“I cannot believe…”

“What in the world…”

And finally, “Well, here we go. The journey begins…”

After a few moments, my car gently weaved its way through our neighborhood. I wondered what awaited me on the other side of the door when I pulled in my driveway. I knew the children were already in bed, but what about my wife. I knew she was up. I knew she would be behind the door, but what was I going to say. Better still, how would I say it?

Now, with the decision in my mind, where would the next step be? Where would the next page in my book of life lead?

When I got home, the house was quiet. The kids had gone to bed and Carrie was waiting.  As  opened the door, the expression on her face showed that she knew it was over.

Smiling, she said…

Just some thoughts,


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